How wedding etiquette has changed

02/09/19

The first recorded occurrence of a marriage ceremony uniting a man and a woman dates back from about 2350 B.C. This means there have been thousands of years of weddings between different types of people in different places. All weddings are different but there are some traditions which remain. In today’s blog, we explore which elements of wedding etiquette have changed.

Wedding gifts

Using the traditional wedding registry is a great way to ensure you receive things you want and need. However, if you’ve already lived with your partner for a while, you might not need a lot of extra furniture. Traditionally the couple doesn’t ask for money as a gift but in modern times it is becoming increasingly common. Money can be saved and used for the honeymoon, a house or even wedding expenses. This can often be a much more practical and well-received present, as well as avoiding getting the same gift from different people.

The cheque

When it comes to the cost, it was always a tradition for the bride’s family to pay for the wedding, whilst the grooms family pays for the honeymoon. These days the payee for the various wedding elements differs between each coupling. Some families offer to pay, while some couples are able to be self-sufficient. A lot of the time it ends up being a mixture of everyone chipping in.

Social media

Obviously, social media is a buzzing hub for most people. News of the engagement, any subsequent parties and planning are bound to be displayed on Instagram. Because of this, a lot of couples begin their ceremony by asking if guests wouldn’t mind waiting until after the day to post on social media. The happy couple wants to be the first ones revealing their dress and location online, understandably.

Throwing the bouquet

Perhaps one of the most prominent wedding traditions. Throwing the bouquet into a crowd of single ladies and whoever catches it will get hitched next. Although it can still be fun, a lot of new brides tend to miss this tradition as they don’t want to see friends and family “fighting” over who will marry next. Throwing the garter is not seen very often at weddings nowadays and may reduce in frequency in years to come. Traditionally, the guests who caught those items would be invited to dance together. Some couples will combine the male and female guests into the bouquet toss to mix things up a bit, though without the dancing.

Plus ones

In previous years it used to be only married partners who were automatic plus-ones at weddings. These days it tends to be anyone in a long-term relationship. Some couples offer a date to single guests if they won’t know anyone else. However, it’s always been considered rude to outright ask for a plus one. Weddings can be expensive so asking for another guest may end up causing problems and putting the happy couple in an awkward position if their budget won’t cover additional guests.

Black attire

Traditionally black attire wasn’t considered right for a wedding guest as it’s too symbolic of funerals. These days a black number is the perfect choice for an outfit being classy and stylish. However, wearing white (or whichever colour the bride is wearing) to a wedding should always be approached with caution. Not enough thought into wedding guest attire could result in a displeased bride.

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